Your Story is not Over.

Whether you believe that your story has ended, or it has just begun, you are correct. Our belief system impacts every aspect of our lives. We behave very differently at the end of the story than at the beginning. We even think differently and feel differently. Has your story ended when you lost your loved one, or is it the beginning of a new chapter?

When I first lost Lauren, I felt that my story had ended. I was 26 years old trying to figure out how to create a life for myself and BAM, it was over. Her story was cut short, and so was mine. I could not see how I was going to continue without her. The vision I had for my life had her in it. In an instant, that was over. I had no compelling future to look forward to.

Then, one day I made a decision. I was NOT going to let Lauren’s death kill me too. I was NOT going to let Lauren’s death be the end of my story. It was going to be a new chapter that I can write the way I want to. Seeing life as the blank pages of my new chapter forced me to take massive action. I started to look for different tools and strategies for me to manage my own grief. To dream of a future of happiness joy and love. Seeing a compelling future for myself made all the difference.

Interestingly enough, once I started to do that, I realized that Lauren’s story is not over either. Just by talking about her, people get to know her through me. They get to know her likes and dislikes, her character and personality, and our relationship. Her life has meaning, and so does her death. Together, Lauren and I provide help and support for people going through their grief journey.

This is how I have rewritten my story. Using my mess as my message. What does the next chapter of your story look like?